And then there was you

Reconceptualization is a life changer. Being able to alter one's perspective and transform the meanings words, events, and circumstances have and how they can come to impact the individual can set one free. It should no longer be about "what things I can change about myself", rather "the things that may need improvement", for example. It is of no use to see something within yourself that may need some readjustment and nothing be done about it, only to then wonder why the outcomes seem to be the same (unpleasant ones). Sometimes it is not the outside world one should be worried about; always, it is you you need to take care of first. Remember, you cannot learn to love someone truly if you've not come to accept yourself as you stand. Do not enter a mentality that one should love you as you are, flaws and all, when you've not come to an understanding of who you are; honestly, would that be a fair request?

It is very true that one who truly loves you will not try to change you, as it should be the case in vice-versa. People are not projects to be fixed or saved, rather humans exist to be companions, friends, lovers, alternatives to oneself, and relative to one another. Yet, it is also true that in order to grow together both individuals will eventually change; old patterns are forgotten and new ones can evolve, closed mental states may come to open up and be more accepting--all of which ultimately impacts the individual and expounds upon that which already exist. Reconceptualization will enable you to open yourself up to the possibility that you can exist in other forms and be happy. It requires one to think positively (as in growth), rather than negatively (as in control). Stand on a different angle of your life and glance over it all, can you see the difference, can you live in the difference, can you be different in exceptional ways?