Gender Roles

I am not a feminist, I do not believe that against all odds, history, perception, etc. a woman is as equal to a man as a man is to another of his gender; simply this belief is unreal, not unrealistic, but untrue at this point in time. I will not sit here and babble about how SHE is HIS equivalent, but I will sit here and write about her strengths (as well as her weaknesses). I need not be like HIM because being a SHE rocks the shit out of this world. You see, I will also not sit here and talk about how unrecognized HER work is, how underpaid SHE has always been, or how SHE must always stand in the shadows of her man. Rather, I will simply point out the fact that she takes care of EVERYTHING that needs be; she doesn't need a trophy to commend her for her hard efforts, she doesn't need a medal that states that she has gotten everything done on her "to-do" list or even a pat on the back because the little bit of time she has left she has used to get started on tomorrow. She is by far beautiful in the most sensual ways, and it is not that she hides behind her husband or partner, nor is it that she needs a "protector", nor is it that she "allows" him to BELIEVE that he is the representing face/force of their family, rather sometimes it just feels good to have someone else take control and take care of things...to show face for things. I will not say that SHE, woman, needs to be a housewife, one who cooks and cleans, and fulfills the roles of a she once existent in the the 1950s, but I am also not here say that she should be arrogant, boisterous about not NEEDING anyone... See, this is why we are typecast and viewed as exaggerated creatures, because we went from one extreme on a continuum to another. Where is the middle ground? did we know one even existed?

I, by no means, expect nor encourage anyone to just be contempt, rather I am urging one to be REAL. So, realistically speaking how would house chores be separated in order to not have one or the other partner feel subordinate? realistically speaking, how can a woman be a woman and FEEL like a woman all the while allowing her man to be a man and FEEL like a man. You see I can't stand women who protest against it ALL; only allowing for the rest to be labeled "complainer", rather be intellectual and conquer with that precisely. Does "communication" ring a bell?! not to many! Unfortunately, we are so concerned with "ME", "I want this done this way", "you need to fix that thing", "why can't it be my way", etc. that we forget that we are not alone. We share life, consciously with others, with our partners, and thus if we continue to think this way why aren't we alone so that it is about "ME" and "doing this, this way", and "no one needing to fix that thing of theirs" and it being most importantly, "my way". It is not about a powerstruggle, unless you define it as such. It is not an issue of subordination, indignation, or downright oppression. It is an issue of communication and redefining that which is, that which isn't, and that whom you (both) become (to the other).